I proposed to my girlfriend Val about two weeks ago. We’ve actually had the wedding planned for a little while so it was no big shock when I finally put a ring on her finger. We both want a small, intimate wedding. I’m talking just family and a few super close friends, probably 40 to 50 people tops. We’d rather take the 10-20 grand a wedding would cost and use it towards the downpayment on a home. Personally, I want the wedding to focus on our love for each other, our future together and our families. Not how much we spent on a party, or dress, or limos. We have the money. We both just look at the expense as a little crazy. I think we could easily have 400 people invited between us. I’ve already seen some eyebrows raised when I’ve said “just immediate family.” I know people want to share the day with us and that is AWESOME, but I hope everyone understands when there’s no invitation in the mail. Are we being selfish?! I don’t think so.