Wedding: Big vs. Small
I proposed to my girlfriend Val about two weeks ago. We’ve actually had the wedding planned for a little while so it was no big shock when I finally put a ring on her finger. We both want a small, intimate wedding. I’m talking just family and a few super close friends, probably 40 to 50 people tops. We’d rather take the 10-20 grand a wedding would cost and use it towards the downpayment on a home. Personally, I want the wedding to focus on our love for each other, our future together and our families. Not how much we spent on a party, or dress, or limos. We have the money. We both just look at the expense as a little crazy. I think we could easily have 400 people invited between us. I’ve already seen some eyebrows raised when I’ve said “just immediate family.” I know people want to share the day with us and that is AWESOME, but I hope everyone understands when there’s no invitation in the mail. Are we being selfish?! I don’t think so.
August 28th, 2008 at 2:27 pm
You are not being selfish at all. I have known a few people that have very small intimate weddings, but then at a later date they have a big informal picnic/gathering so their friends can celebrate with them. It’s less expensive and keeps everyone happy (well, probably not everyone). Best of luck!
August 28th, 2008 at 4:50 pm
I think you’ve got the right idea and you’re not by any means being selfish!
Best wishes to you guys again!!
August 29th, 2008 at 6:55 am
I agree… A wedding is about the two of you, your love and the beginning of you life together. I have worked with couples for over twenty years on weddings… I always tell them, make the day what You want it to be. Congrats & best wishes!
September 1st, 2008 at 7:42 am
I think that it is your wedding and should go as you want it to 25 years ago we got married each of us for a 2nd time and we did the same thing had a small wedding had cake and coffee at the church then my sister invited just family a and a few guests to her house foe a lunch it worked fine and no one complained about not going to my sisters
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